A New Perspective Balances My Day!

Posted on September 22, 2011 by Sheryl Checkman

The Lotus Garden, a community on west 97th Street in NYC

A little bit of heaven I discovered on West 97th Street

I’ll admit that this has not been a great week for me. I’ve been anxious about a few things lately, both personal and business-related. It hasn’t felt good. However, yesterday I discovered that sometimes a new perspective can literally change your perspective!

I spent an hour yesterday morning in the Lotus Garden, a hidden community garden, tucked away above a garage on West 97th Street in Manhattan. Deborah Roth of Spirited Living, introduced me to this hidden gem, where she tends her very own urban garden plot. The lush green space is abundant with a variety of plants, flowers, couple of ponds and even a peach tree! All this on the Upper West Side – who knew?

Deborah is a Life Transition Coach, Certified Relationship Coach, and Interfaith Minister. Deborah and I met in a women’s networking group that we both belong to, Powerful You Women’s Network. Our meeting this morning was to get to know each other better and I definitely left, not only knowing more about Deborah and the unique perspective she brings to her coaching business, but I think I also gained a new friend as well. Deborah has a calm, easy demeanor and is easy to talk to… she’s a good listener. I can see what a great coach she must be.

That hour spent talking with Deborah in her garden made me realize that things are not always as they appear to be. You can look up to see a garden atop a garage on a city street, or you can keep your eyes down and only see the concrete pavement below. It’s how you choose to look that can change your perception. Our visit in the garden came to an end. Deborah was off to a yoga class and I left to tackle the challenges that waited for me back home. We all find balance in different ways, and I find that those ways change daily. Yesterday it was discovering a beautiful garden and a new friend – and a yoga class later that evening didn’t hurt either!

Deborah Roth in the Lotus Garden wearing a Life is Balance® Yoga t-shirt.

Finding Balance on Vacation

Posted on July 28, 2011 by Sheryl Checkman

Sheryl Checkman in the Turks & Caicos on vacation

Finally I'm on vacation, wearing one of my Life is Balance tank tops, of course!

In case you were wondering, I did go on my vacation. I spent 8 glorious days in the Turks and Caicos, scuba diving and replenishing my soul. The weather wasn’t perfect, at least in the beginning. I arrived in Providenciales on Sunday afternoon to overcast skies and relatively cool weather. Not at all what I was used to from years past. For the first 3 days the weather was stormy and I began to second guess my decision to throw financial caution to the wind and take this much-needed vacation. But, as we were still able to go diving I decided not to let a bad weather forecast spoil my trip. By Wednesday however, the system that was stalled over the islands blew away and in its’ place came the beautiful sunny skies and warm tropical breezes that I remembered.

When I made my decision to finally go on this vacation, it was as if a weight had suddenly lifted – all the stress that I was feeling about work and finances melted away. The problems and worries would still be there when I returned, but I decided that mental well-being is just as important and that I would return better equipped to deal with them. Sometimes you just have to step back, relax and allow yourself to breathe in order to put things into perspective and allow opportunities to offer themselves up to you.

I was talking with a friend at lunch today who is going through a rough time. She sounded like I have often felt – paralyzed by the weight of life’s curve balls. I came up with an analogy that she insisted I write about. Being a beach baby at heart, I compared what she was going through to being caught in a riptide. Your first instinct is to fight it. But fighting it will only exhaust you. You don’t know which way is up and which way is down. The only way to get out of it is to relax and let the natural movement of the water bring you back to the surface. Instead of allowing what may seem like insurmountable problems drown you, sometimes you just need to relax, breathe and let yourself come back to the surface.

When I got back from my vacation, complete with a nasty cold, I made a presentation to a potential client and ended up landing a big project that I had been hoping to get! In addition to that, I received three other requests for proposals. In the grand scheme, taking off one week to do something for myself – to add some much-needed balance, did not adversely affect my life. On the contrary, I believe it allowed me to come back to the surface swimming!

Here are a few pictures I took on my trip!

Sea turtle swimming

Diver surfacing from below

Shark and Diver beneath the sea

Shark and diver beside the wall

Sunset in the Turks & Caicos

Dreaming of Vacation

Posted on June 24, 2011 by Sheryl Checkman

Summer camp in the pool

It is that time of year again – summer! June 21, the summer solstice arrived on June 21 heralding the beginning of summer. Ever since I was a little girl, summer has always been my favorite season. Growing up in the Bronx, my family used to spend the summers at a bungalow colony. My mom and brother and I spent the entire summer up there, with my dad coming up on weekends after work. Days filled with camp and swimming rolled one into the next. I had nothing more pressing to think about other than getting up and enjoying the day. It was pure bliss! After we stopped going to the country as a family, I went to sleep away camp (from age 10-17). Each July I left to spend 8 glorious weeks in the country at camp, again with no stress other than the annual color war competitions. Those were the days! Every day was filled with activity – from softball games with rival camps to trips to the Orange County Fair, tennis and archery, campfires and cookouts, movies under the stars and a camaraderie that would launch lifetime friendships.

Summer was easy then. At least for me. I didn’t realize at the time that the reason we stopped going to the bungalow colony was because it was no longer affordable for my parents. Times were tough back then. Times are tough now. With the economy being what it is I think twice about spending money on vacations. But give them up? I don’t think I can. Right now I am struggling with whether or not to join my friends down in the Turks and Caicos to go on my annual scuba diving vacation. I am stressing out over whether or not to book my flight and whether once I make the decision and book it whether I’ll find out that that is the week that a potential client will want me to come in and present the big proposal that I have submitted. When did vacations become stressful? What happened to those easy summer days?

I talk a lot about balance. My Life is Balance t-shirts (also available on Etsy) are a testament to that. Recreation is a necessary part of life. It balances out all the stress of everything else. I haven’t been away in a year. This is unusual for me. I used to try to take at least two vacations a year to refresh and renew my energy and creativity. I am feel pretty unbalanced at the moment. I think a vacation scuba diving will sort that out.